Don't even think of changing him or her!

A friend told me about the acronym, DEAR, which translates to "Don't even think of  changing him/her!"  I firmly believe that when people change it is because the person wants and is personally ready to do so!  A partner cannot convince or make someone change.  This is one of the biggest relationship mistakes I see among my friends who are in relationships.  I think everyone intrinsically wants to be loved unconditionally, rather than being told they'll be loved if.... and when......